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Where are the Pigs?

I’m teaching a really fun class right now at Indiana Wesleyan University on “Marriage & Family.” One of the points of discussion is on the whole topic of “Love & Mate Selection.” I came across some wonderful wisdom for our sex-crazed, emotionally driven culture where we are “in love” one moment and “out of love” the next.

Instead of focusing on the feeling of love, set your attention on the essence of love. Instead of asking the question, “Do I still love that person?” begin asking a better question – “What is the level of my commitment in this relationship?”

You see, a couple’s level of commitment to each other is a much better indicator of whether the relationship will endure. Words can be cheap. Emotions can fluctuate. But a commitment to love is a rock solid cornerstone for building a lasting relationship.

Someone once explained the difference between romantic involvement and commitment in a relationship as the difference between bacon and eggs – the chicken is involved, but the pig is committed.

In this day of chicken-hearted relationships, it’s time to ask, “Where are the pigs?!”

  1. Tim Vassar
    October 22nd, 2010 at 19:00 | #1


    You may recall my telling the story of the chickenand the pig at Katie’s National Junior Honor Society induction ceremony. It is important to know that while the pig makes a total commitment, he does this only once. The chicken continues to contribute day after day after day. Just like marriage – the intial commitment needs to be renewed each and every day. Thanks for a gret blog. See you Sunday.

  2. Kerry Drake
    October 23rd, 2010 at 13:32 | #2

    I’ve been saying “oink, oink” for 29 + years now, 28 years at LSF.

  3. Kerry Drake
    October 23rd, 2010 at 13:34 | #3

    Yes, I would say that’s commitment.

  4. October 25th, 2010 at 14:40 | #4

    So really we need to be ckickens with pig-like tendencies. That’s why I have you in my life!

  5. October 25th, 2010 at 14:42 | #5

    Yes you have my piglike friend! That was a compliment by the way!

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