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Where are the Pigs?

October 22nd, 2010 5 comments

I’m teaching a really fun class right now at Indiana Wesleyan University on “Marriage & Family.” One of the points of discussion is on the whole topic of “Love & Mate Selection.” I came across some wonderful wisdom for our sex-crazed, emotionally driven culture where we are “in love” one moment and “out of love” the next.

Instead of focusing on the feeling of love, set your attention on the essence of love. Instead of asking the question, “Do I still love that person?” begin asking a better question – “What is the level of my commitment in this relationship?”

You see, a couple’s level of commitment to each other is a much better indicator of whether the relationship will endure. Words can be cheap. Emotions can fluctuate. But a commitment to love is a rock solid cornerstone for building a lasting relationship.

Someone once explained the difference between romantic involvement and commitment in a relationship as the difference between bacon and eggs – the chicken is involved, but the pig is committed.

In this day of chicken-hearted relationships, it’s time to ask, “Where are the pigs?!”